Can I just say that like.
Yes, obviously (or not obviously, based on some of y'alls behavior), the idea that “Women dating men is TORTURE for the woman we should pity women who date men!” is like. Radfem juice to the extreme and yet somehow the most basic level of radfem bullshit and it’s stupid and just CRUEL to men.
But speaking as someone who spent most of my life as a cis woman (about 25 years solidly there and two years wondering) and who is sometimes still woman-ish in my gender and someone who is constantly read as being a woman by the world…
It’s also REALLY fucking irritating that these radfem fucks come along like “Oh, you poor sad woman FORVED to date these men, FORCED by the patriarchy to be attracted to me, if only you could be FREE to be the lesbian we know you are! and like…
Fuck you. I love men. I love how men love. I think men are hot and sexy and cute and desirable as all fuck. I love men’s bodies. I do not think that a male or masculine body is "disgusting” or “unclean” because it belongs to a man. No one is fucking holding me at gunpoint and forcing me to like men- I just fucking like men.
And it’s the same way I feel about the whole “Oh, you poor woman FORCED to partake in kink!” argument like. NO! I fucking like kink! I am kinky! I WANT to be kinky! I want to have that kind of sex with people- including with men.
Radfem rhetoric rests on two things (well it rests on a lot of things but IMO these two things are like the MAIN pillars, or some of the main pillars). The MAIN main thing is the idea of the man, the masculine, as the inherent oppressor, the evil, the All Bad Things in the World Come from Men. But the other thing it leans on, ironically?
Is the idea that women cannot possibly know what they really want. That women who are attracted to men, women who are kinky, women who aren’t women and who are actually men- do not actually know what they want. They have all been TRICKED, you see, these poor, vulnerable, impressionable, prey-like women, and the radfems are here to SAVE THEM from all these things that they THINK they want, but oh no, no The Devil I MEAN the Patriarchy has just convinced you that you want these things, you don’t REALLY want any of that, you don’t KNOW better!
Do I NEED to fucking explain how infantilizing and gross and downright fucking SEXIST it is. To insist that women do not know what they want and must be steered in the right direction? The idea that women need to be guided because we (because I am a woman sometimes, although whether radfems see me as a weak-willed, easily swayed uwu woman or a traitor rapist man depends on the day, it seems) cannot POSSIBLY know what we REALLY want…
Come on. I mean we know they’re in bed with sexist Conservatives but do radfems REALLY need to go so hard on driving that point home?
